Backstory: I never had a formal mentor, but I have met several people throughout my career who have taught me by example And while I know I’ve thanked clients for work sent my way (“Thank you for your business!” is written on every invoice), I think it’s time to go a little deeper and truly acknowledge someone for who they are and what they’ve done for me.
As always, do this nudge in a way that works for you. Thank a coworker for her great attitude. Thank the woman who tirelessly coordinates your book club’s meetings or mom group’s get-togethers. Tell a neighbor his garden inspires you to keep trying to coax viable things out of your front yard.
I am a believer in handwritten notes, as they feel more personal to me. But a text message or email will work just fine.
Who do you need to appreciate?
What Happened: I spent a couple of days going through my memories of people who have helped me along the way. There were two women who, independently, took chances on me early in my career and hired me for jobs I felt were far beyond my skills and experience; those same women then acknowledged and celebrated me when I succeeded. (I am full of warm fuzzies just thinking about them.) There have been countless graphic designers who took the words I provided and communicated them visually; combined, our work became more effective. I have been so fortunate to have been a part of teams of true collaborators.
Finally I settled on one woman who taught me, by her example, how to be a manager of projects and people. I pulled out my nicest stationery, explained why I was thinking of her, expressed my gratitude and appreciation, and sealed it with a kiss. (Not really. I used a pretty wax seal.)
And then I thought of a second person, so I repeated the process.
The Ah-Hahs: While I hope the recipients of my notes will be pleased to receive them, I fully recognize this nudge is for me. I’m not sure I’ve ever reviewed and catalogued the wins of the past several years of my career. At this turning point, as I consider what I want to do next, it felt good – it felt smart – to acknowledge for myself what I’ve learned and accomplished.
This week’s nudge also reminded me of the good things that came with the work: the high you get when you work with people who inspire and challenge you to bring your A game; the excitement when, as a group, you come up with the perfect creative solution to a problem; the elation when a job is completed and you know it was done well.
I’m holding onto these feelings as I seek and consider new opportunities, as I evaluate the people I want to work with and learn from. Because I want more, please.
