Wanna be a guest Nudger?

I’m looking for a few brave and fun-loving souls to share their 52Nudges experiences!

If you’d be up for contributing a guest nudging post (using a task from my List or one of your own), reach out through Comments here and I’ll get back to you with details.

If you are new to 52Nudges or haven’t looked through posts in a while, I encourage you to scroll through the archives to see how the process works. You might also check out the guest post my friend Carrie contributed, “Play my flute from me”.

 

Just realized: Maybe one of your Nudges will be to “Lead a Nudge”! 😉 Do it!

Making my List, checking it twice

As I get ready to finalize my List of Nudges for 52Nudges 3.0, I’m giving it one final review to make sure every Nudges meets all the criteria:

  • Is this something I can do in one week’s time?
  • Is it inexpensive? (I aimed to keep everything at $20 or less.)
  • Does it make me uncomfortable? (It should.)
  • Is it fun? (Most should have some element of fun.)

This year, as I include Radical Self-Care in my plans, I’m adding one final criteria:

  • Do I really want to do this?

I have a long to-do list of big tasks and projects I should do. They are important, sure, and I should do them—and I will. But for the 52Nudges project, I want to make sure I’m not setting myself up for a week of drudgery and/or misery.

This doesn’t mean I won’t include some shoulds. For example, I have a table in my office loaded with recipe books and files. This mess is a daily reminder of my need to do a massive decluttering of these items, to cull out the dishes I no longer wish to make or eat, to extract new dishes I’d like to try, and to finally share the books that have for so long taken up space in my life. This is a big should for me, and yet, I know I will feel so good when it’s done. I know I’ll feel a sense of accomplishment after I’ve dedicated consistent time to it. And maybe I’ll discover a new “favorite” dinner entree!

“Spend 15 mins/day going through recipe books” is on my List.

I’ll share my full List of possible Nudges soon, so you can follow along with me or use it as inspiration for creating your own.

And if you need help with your List, check out the 52Nudges Workbook. I include the exercises I worked through, exercises I hope will also inspire and motivate you.

 

 

52Nudges Workbook: Exercises, Tips & Inspiration for Launching Yourself Forward in Life

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Am I tired, burned out, or…?

As I prepared for a minor medical procedure (I’m fine, by the way), I scrambled to get all my work done ahead of time so I could take a couple of days off to recover. I finally had an “excuse” to take a break from my 24/7 schedule (because there’s client work + my work + household and family care), and I found myself looking forward to the downtime—to rest, to watch chick flicks, to read a book purely for my own pleasure.

What is wrong with me?! Why do I have to have something happen that lays me flat, that forces me to be still, to finally take some time for myself?

I’ve been recognizing this pattern a lot lately and acknowledging that I am Burned Out. Then this article came out, and I think there’s more to it.

 

“What is High-Functioning Anxiety?” writer Dominique Michelle Astorino asks. It features:

  • Overthinking
  • People-pleasing
  • Inability to slow down
  • Fear of failure
  • Overplanning
  • Poor boundaries

 

What are the symptoms? They include:

  • Irritability
  • Restlessness
  • Worry
  • Trouble concentrating
  • Feeling depleted

Check check check…. Dangit!

All of this supports and motivates my decision to include some Radical Self-Care in my List of upcoming 52Nudges. In addition to adding some pampering (I can’t even remember the last time I treated myself to nice body lotion), I’ll be adding things like “Reevaluate a long-term friendship” and “Say ‘No’ without giving an explanation”.

I welcome your suggestions. What Radical Self-Care practices have you done that worked for you in the past? What are some acts of self-kindness you would like to do (but have been putting off)? Please share with me—with all of us—in Comments.

Need help putting together your List? Check out the 52Nudges Workbook for exercises, tips, and inspiration. You’ll find everything you need to get ready for the 3.0 launch on December 12.

 

 

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What’s up with the ladybug?

“Listen, when I was a little girl, I used to spend hours looking for ladybugs. Finally, I’d just give up and fall asleep in the grass. When I woke up, they were crawling all over me.”

I love this line from the movie Under the Tuscan Sun. It’s a reminder that sometimes, when we want something desperately, instead of striving and begging, the best course of action is to quiet ourselves and let it come to us.*

Ladybugs also delight me. They’re always a surprise. You’re out in a park or your own backyard, and you look down, and there’s this sweet little thing tickling your hand. You stop for a moment, and the world stops around you. For a few precious moments, your whole focus goes to watching that bug, feeling its presence, taking in its simple beauty.

As I considered different logos for 52Nudges, my first instinct was to go with a bird being nudged out of its nest, but the images I found were either too cute or slightly violent (yikes!). A butterfly seemed the obvious choice: transformation, breaking out of a shell, spreading my wings. But I wasn’t feeling it, and I kept thinking about the ladybug. Curious, I looked up the symbolism at World Birds and discovered ladybugs represent “good fortune, true love…the right choices in life…and the time of the fruition of your dreams and wishes.” “When you encounter a ladybug spirit animal,” I learned, “you can be sure that positive transformations are on the way.”

Positive transformations are on the way.

That feels just right, so ladybug it is.

From past rounds of nudges, I know that I will be surprised by what I draw each Sunday, and that many of the Ah-hahs that come from those nudges will delight and inspire me. I’m excited to see what the 52Nudges 3.0 experience will bring into my life. We start December 12. Won’t you join me?

*In the movie, after Frances follows Katherine’s advice in the quote above, she returns to report: “Ladybugs, Katherine. Lots and lots of ladybugs….”

 

 

The 52Nudges Workbook is HERE!

I have been thinking about creating a workbook for ages, and today it finally went live!

Inside you’ll find the story of why I started on this journey, how I came up with this program, and how it works.

What I’m most excited about are the exercises. I share with you the prompts I worked through to create my own Lists for each round of Nudges.

Whether you’re a long-time reader or first-time visitor, if you’re getting ready to join me on 52Nudges 3.0 (start date: Sunday, December 12), I hope this workbook will help you make the most of your experience.

 

52Nudges Workbook: Exercises, Tips & Inspiration for Launching Yourself Forward in Life

downloadable & printable PDF

US $9.95

Wait…we’re starting in December?!

As I thought about when to launch 52Nudges 3.0, I wrestled with all the obstacles: I’m busy with work, my family needs me, as soon as I finish…. And then the Holiday Season snuck up on me. “I’ll just push this into the new year,” I told myself, because then…maybe…I’ll have some time to do something for me.

Sound familiar?

In the meantime, I’ve started brainstorming about my List and noticing that what I want and need is more self-care nudges. I look back on the past two years and realize how many other people’s needs have taken priority over my own. I take care of my husband, dog, clients, neighbors, elderly parents, family members, and friends. Heck, I’m even responsible for keeping all of our houseplants alive! When will it be my turn?

How about now? Right now. I’m going to start this Season of Giving by getting into the habit of giving a little something extra to myself.

My List may include “Take a long, hot bubble bath”, “Treat myself to a mani-pedi”, and “Give myself a home facial”. I’m also going deeper. I’m going for RADICAL SELF-CARE, which may include nudges along the lines of “Eliminate (or delegate) a big responsibility”, “Unpack a worry and craft alternate affirmations for it”, and “Reevaluate a ‘friendship'”.

I’ll pull my first nudge on December 12, and I hope you’ll be joining me.

Mark your calendar: 52Nudges 3.0 starts December 12

 

I know, I know…December is the most craziest time of the year! It’s also the perfect time (I promise) to kick off round 3 of 52Nudges.

I’m working on my List right now, and soon I’ll have something to help you create your own.

If you’re joining me for the first time, take a few minutes to peruse the right column to find out what this is all about, what got it started, and how it works.

Remember, you can always do the nudges I select each week, or simply read along for the entertainment value.

I’m glad you’re here. Let’s do this!

Coming back for round 3

Greetings, Nudgers!

These past several months have been a blur of projects, pandemic, and personal introspection. I’m ready to embrace a fun and fabulous future!

I’m in the brainstorming stage now as I get ready for round 3 of 52Nudges, during which time I’ll be reviewing past nudges on this blog for inspiration — something I encourage you to do, too, as you think about how you might nudge yourself into new adventures and experiences.

Details and re-start date coming soon! xoxo

52+: My biggest nudge ever

nudge: something that pushes me out of my comfort zone, an experience that helps me live my best life, a task that can be completed in one week

Well, two out of three! 😉

This week I completed my biggest nudge ever when I uploaded my book to Amazon. Years in the making (because I had to live my story before I could tell it), The Mother of All Dilemmas tells how I explored the possibility of becoming a single mother and how I came to fully embrace the truth that all women have value—even childless me!

 

“Well-articulated…with painstaking honesty and emotional generosity.”

—Jody Day, psychotherapist, author of Living the “Life Unexpected: 12 Weeks to Your Plan B for a Meaningful and Fulfilling Future Without Children”, and founder of Gateway Women

 

As a reader of the 52Nudges blog, you know some of my story. I hope you’ll pick up the book to learn more and be inspired to live your own truths. Maybe one day I’ll have the privilege of reading your story.

The Mother of All Dilemmas is available for preorder on Kindle here. Paperback will be available July 22.

52+: Connections–The one I’ve missed the most

Well, apparently my brain took full advantage of the holiday weekend and I completely forgot to post this week’s nudge! Here you go:

As our world re-opens (fingers crossed), I’m starting to ease back out, accepting invitations to share meals, go on walks, and reconnect in person (hallelujah!) with friends and family members. In the process, I’ve discovered I’m not eager to cram my schedule full of activities. Part of me wants to hang on to some of the quiet I’ve enjoyed over the past year. If I look even deeper, I recognize I also don’t want to waste time at events I “should” do. I am prioritizing how and with whom I spend my precious days.

I have a handful of people in mind for this nudge. Maybe your most-missed person lives nearby and this is the week you call them up and plan a long-overdue play date. Maybe they live far, far away, so you schedule a long phone call instead. Or maybe…maybe your person is you, and this is the week you make time to sit quietly and listen to your own heart.

Since we are getting into our new “normal,” I feel it’s time to wrap up this special session of 52Nudges. I hope it has been a fun and rewarding experience for you, and I hope you’ll continue reaching out to the people in your life in meaningful ways.

Over the summer months I’ll be thinking about the next round of nudges (3.0?), and I hope to see you back here in the fall.

Thank you for doing this with me!

Affectionately, Kathleen